Today’s a new day!
The Church was never meant to be a place where people walk through the doors and immediately wonder, “Where do I fit in?”
Unfortunately, too many churches have become filled with cliques—small groups of people who only talk to certain people, sit with certain people, socialize with certain people, and sometimes make newcomers feel like outsiders simply because they aren’t part of the “in crowd.”
That should break our hearts.
The Church should be one of the most welcoming places on earth.
Jesus didn’t build His ministry around exclusive circles. He reached out to the forgotten, the hurting, the rejected, the sinners, the poor, the sick, and the people society had pushed to the margins. He didn’t ask people to prove they belonged before He loved them.
He simply loved them.
So why do we sometimes make people work so hard to find a place within the Church?
Cliques don’t attract people. Love does.
Cliques create walls. Jesus tore down walls.
Cliques make people feel invisible. Jesus made people feel seen.
Cliques say, “You don’t belong with us.”
Jesus says, “Come to Me.”
Think about the person who walks into church for the first time. Maybe they’re struggling with addiction. Maybe their marriage is falling apart. Maybe they’ve been hurt by the Church before. Maybe they’re grieving. Maybe they’re lonely. Maybe they’re questioning their faith. Maybe they simply don’t know anyone.
What do they experience when they walk through our doors?
Do they see people who are willing to stop, introduce themselves, sit beside them, listen to their story and make room for them?
Or do they see groups gathered together who barely acknowledge anyone outside their circle?
We need to understand something: people are watching.
Sometimes our greatest testimony isn’t what happens on the platform. It’s what happens in the hallway.
It’s whether we notice the person standing alone.
It’s whether we invite someone to sit with us.
It’s whether we learn someone’s name.
It’s whether we ask, “How are you really doing?” and actually listen to the answer.
It’s whether we make room at our table.
The Church doesn’t need more exclusive circles. The Church needs wider tables.
And this isn’t about saying that friendships are wrong. Of course we will naturally develop deeper friendships with certain people. That’s part of being human.
The problem begins when our friendships become barriers.
There is a difference between having close friends and creating a closed circle.
There is a difference between community and exclusivity.
There is a difference between fellowship and favoritism.
Jesus called us to love one another, not just the people who look like us, think like us, worship like us or already belong to our social circle.
The Church should be a family where there is room for everybody.
The single person.
The married couple.
The young person.
The senior adult.
The lifelong Christian.
The person who is just beginning to believe.
The person who has walked away and is trying to find their way home.
The person who has been hurt by religion.
The person who doesn’t have it all together.
Because here’s the truth:
None of us has it all together.
We are all people in need of God’s grace.
So let’s stop building little kingdoms inside God’s house.
Let’s stop worrying about who belongs to our group.
Let’s stop protecting our circles and start expanding our tables.
Let’s become the kind of Church where a stranger doesn’t remain a stranger.
Where the lonely find friendship.
Where the broken find compassion.
Where the hurting find hope.
Where the questioning are welcomed.
Where the forgotten are remembered.
Where the outsider becomes family.
And where the first thing people experience isn’t judgment, suspicion or exclusion—but the love of Jesus.
If we want people to come to church, we have to give them something worth coming to.
Not perfect people.
Not impressive programs.
Not political tribes.
Not cliques.
Jesus.
And Jesus is love.
Maybe it’s time for all of us to look around our churches and ask ourselves one uncomfortable but important question:
“Am I helping create a Church that welcomes people, or am I helping create a circle that keeps people out?”
Because the Church doesn’t belong to us.
It belongs to Jesus.
And His table has always been bigger than our clique.
Let’s make room.
Let’s love people well.
Let’s tear down the walls.
Let’s open the doors.
Let’s become the Church Jesus called us to be. ~OC
The Blessed Overcomer 